No One Else Mattered
Soon after meeting on our site, Alan and Stephanie realized their relationship was special. In fact, they felt so strongly for one another that taking the next step seemed natural.
“He proposed to me on one knee, at sunset, near the lake at a place that was very special to him, because it was the spot where he’d watched the sunset with his father for the last time before his father passed on,” Stephanie relates. “I was touched that he’d brought me to that spot to see the sunset! Then he got down on one knee and pulled out the beautiful ring. I didn’t see it coming... and I cried like a five year old. We’re talking snot bubbles! And of course I said yes.”
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What led up to this wonderful moment? Stephanie started dating online because “I wasn’t finding the type of guy I’d be interested in being in a long-term with, and I was curious as to what online dating had to offer. I’ve never limited myself to one race and I wanted to meet someone with the same relationship goals as mine.”
Still, she wasn’t certain this was the right move. “I was hopeful, but at the same time I was being careful, so I’d say I was confident but realistic,” explains Stephanie.
Alan knew he wanted to use online dating to meet women of other races and/or cultures. “Your site was not the first,” he tells us. “I tried other sites, but I wasn’t satisfied with them.”
What convinced him to post a profile? “I felt more comfortable trying to date outside of my race online, rather than approaching women in person,” Alan explains. He put his odds of success at “50/50, probably.”
By that point Stephanie had been with us for some time. “I’d been a member off and on for three years,” she recalls. “I’d closed my account for about a year, then went back on and met Alan two days later.”
Here’s what happened — she noticed a new member who’d joined a month earlier. The username was “Buckeye_Guy” and guess who the profile belonged to? “I reached out to Alan with a Flirt and he messaged me back,” says Stephanie. “And from that moment on, no one else mattered to either of us. He was the one, and I knew it.”
So what was so great about this guy, anyway? “He was hot!” laughs Stephanie. “Awesome blue eyes and he was a family man looking for a long-term relationship, like me. We thought alike in a lot of subjects, and we still do. We complete each other’s sentences.”
Alan is more concise about why he responded to “Amflady” (Stephanie). “Her picture!”
It wasn’t long before the duo decided to meet on the other side of the screen. As Stephanie tells it, “We got along so well, and we had talked for awhile on FaceTime. It was just time to meet.”
In person, Stephanie wasn’t disappointed. “OMG!! He’s even hotter in real life!” The photo of Stephanie that Alan saw didn’t lead him astray, either. “She’s beautiful!” he remembers thinking at the time.
They were so taken with each other’s good looks that nerves became a bit of an issue. “I was actually surprised by how nervous I was,” admits Stephanie. “I’ve never been nervous meeting new people, but with him, my heart was pumping and my hands were sweating.”
For Alan, the most surprising thing about their first date was “How well we clicked.” He was “110% sure” he wanted to see Stephanie again.
“We didn’t even want to say goodbye,” she declares. “I hated watching his car go down the street... so yeah — we’d already planned the next date before he left.”
Once they started dating in earnest, this couple-in-the-making found their attraction went more than skin deep. “I appreciate what a true gentleman he is,” notes Stephanie. Something Alan really values about Stephanie is “how loving and caring she is.”
Asked if they are each other’s type, they both say yes. “100% on point!” Stephanie says. “Completely similar” is Alan’s response.
The wheels turned quickly for these two and before long they were thinking marriage. Alan explains why he popped the question. “[This relationship] made me look forward to my second half of life. I’m looking forward to growing old with her.”
Stephanie is overjoyed to have met her match. “I’m happier now,” She says. “My soul is at peace because I finally found its mate.”
Now that they’ve found each other, the couple can concentrate on helping others along their own road toward love. “Hang in there,” Stephanie says, first and foremost. “I would get frustrated and delete my profile for a few months, all the time! But you gotta get back in there. Eventually you will find the one who is meant for you — just be patient, they always come when you need them the most and when you least expect them. Also if you want a long-term relationship, don’t get involved with anyone who just wants to be friends or just date. Only engage those who want the same type of relationship you do. And make sure you share the same interests and even the same (or similar) religion. Those issues are important for long-term compatibility.”
As usual, Alan’s words are few but direct. “Follow — and believe in — what you want. Don’t settle.”
Right now the only thing these two are settling on is a china pattern for the wedding.
284 responses to "No One Else Mattered"
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Ems27 says:Posted: 18 Sep 19
That's awesome, I would like to meet a man of my life
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Besibella says:Posted: 14 Jul 19
So encouraging,the advice given here prepares one to be patient and calm, to hold on until one's half surfaces. May the Almighty God bless their marriage
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Besibella says:Posted: 14 Jul 19
So encouraging,the advice given here prepares one to be patient and calm, to hold on until one's half surfaces. May the Almighty God bless there marriage
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Kulchamania says:Posted: 25 Jun 19
Very touching piece. Every moment and situation has a purpose. Congratulations to them both.
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Butleh says:Posted: 05 Jun 19
Congratulations! May God bless their relationship forever
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Peaches1115 says:Posted: 28 May 19
I'm looking for my white chocolates. A man that's consistent, goal oriented, knows what he wants and goes after it. A gentleman a man with chivalry a man that's honest a man with character. A man that likes to laugh and have humor. Are you out there? I'm looking for you.
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Hze says:Posted: 24 May 19
Great and their dreams have come true, its true love
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Kkart says:Posted: 18 May 19
When a heart desire is met, no word or statement can explain the inner joy. I think it is a wonderful experience which I look up to in the near future.
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Marieroses says:Posted: 13 May 19
I just wanted to be happy like these people...alots laughing, smiling and fun...wow real love.......
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Farnga says:Posted: 13 Apr 19
I know one day I will be like you guys, I will get my perfect match, I know
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Sheriff44v says:Posted: 25 Aug 19
Love is a many splendid thing good things come to those who wait
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Jos67 says:Posted: 18 Oct 19
May b, but you should stop looking for only one kind of man. Obsession don't leave to success
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Celvee254 says:Posted: 25 Mar 19
Hi guys it's so awesome, I'm also on the same situations hopping one day my better half gonna show himself to me, thank for interracial for us members
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Tazorora says:Posted: 04 Mar 19
Woooow lucky they found true love. Keep up the. Fire burning
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Alphine7 says:Posted: 22 Feb 19
Wow that's encouraging, and it gives confidence that there are serious members.
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Olumidajay says:Posted: 18 Feb 19
I need to chip in this point... There are so many genuine Africans on the dating site that are sincerely searching for true love beyond the borders and continent. It's high time we need to change the negativity of mindsets towards Africans generally
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LadyC293 says:Posted: 01 Mar 19
This is very encouraging for me because i have never dated on line
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Olumidajay says:Posted: 18 Feb 19
I'm happy for them... Keeping my fingers crossed to share my story as well
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Styzie says:Posted: 08 Jun 19
I like there you're ending by saying that there are genuine Africans searching for true love. I blv in your words
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Rachael2us says:Posted: 18 Jan 19
So lovely..... I wish you both all the best of love....
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Jom38lus2019 says:Posted: 07 Jan 19
Stephanie I wanna congratulate you for having met Alan a true man and a believer .I wanna thank you and Alan for the good advice you people made. A wonderful and inspiring story . Thanks to best interracial site ,Leticia and her excellent team.
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Rozeline says:Posted: 21 Sep 18
Congratulations to you two
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Roy2478 says:Posted: 13 Jan 19
Hi beautiful, How are you doing?. May i ask know about you ☺
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Excellent256 says:Posted: 16 Jul 18
I love her concluding part of being focussed and knowing what you want,i think that is why we put a profile. I wouldnt feel fine someone below my age to flirt or wink at me. I actually ignore. Am still waiting positively. Thank you Stephanie and Alan.
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Pndo says:Posted: 14 Jul 18
Really nice. I hope al be the next one to give my story of love beyond borders
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Alafiha says:Posted: 29 Jun 18
gud,congratulations to d both parties nd may i have same story to share soon.
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Congratulations, may God bless them