The government can't keep them apart
Jeff never had trouble meeting people, given his gregarious nature and his line of work—he’s a snowboard instructor, drummer, and D.J. whose handle is “DJake.” But he’d found he was most compatible with black women and he wasn’t meeting many of them in his area. What’s more, Jeff was very eager to meet his match and knew that hoping for the occasional chance meeting might keep him waiting for a long time.
“I wanted someone to fill my lonely heart, and yesterday,” Jeff says. So he decided to try our site. “Within the first month, I was talking to so many ladies that I quit searching to meet new ones,” he marvels. “Several of them are now some of my best friends. I’ve been teaching one of the girls’ daughters how to do magic tricks!”
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Kalama was getting plenty of attention of her own, but she had specific ideas about the kind of man she was looking for. When she found Jeff’s profile, it struck her as a bit long, but fun and genuine. She liked that Jeff knew what he wanted. His profile declared he was “Ready for Love.” Their personalities seemed compatible, and so did their relationship goals—both wanted to start a family, sooner rather than later.
There was just one wrinkle to iron out—Jeff was in Ohio and Kalama was in Africa! Undeterred, they started talking on Skype. This was enough for Jeff to learn to love Kalama’s laugh, her beautiful smile, and her witty sense of humor.
Jeff decided to go to Africa for a visit to see if their connection would work in real life. The pair met in person for the first time when Jeff got off the plane in Zambia. “When I finally met her, she was the same person as on Skype, but so beautiful,” Jeff recalls. “Her embrace felt so much warmer than a keyboard!”
The young couple felt a little anxious at first but their nerves settled down as their conversation took off. Jeff and his sweetheart would dance for hours at a local club, until they were the last people on the dance-floor. Later that night, their first kiss came in the back of the cab on their way home.
Jeff would spend seven weeks with Kalama’s family. The couple toured the area to see Africa’s wildlife in its natural habitat and visit the world-famous Victoria Falls. Along the way, they fell madly in love. By the time Jeff headed home, he was a married man. Yes, it’s true—Jeff and Kalama got hitched!
Sadly, difficulties with Kalama’s immigration are keeping the couple apart for now. But Jeff and Kalama are making plans to reunite in Africa. In fact, they hope to visit impoverished villages in Zambia, offering children entertainment, inspiration and gifts.
“Kalama’s smile, heart and love are greater than I ever could have imagined,” Jeff says. Something tells us that no government can keep this couple apart for long.
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leoaking says:Posted: 17 Apr 11Sweet ass on her. He looks nerdy. Good luck getting into US. I always wondered how that all works.
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poula says:Posted: 17 Apr 11wooooooh that love story sounds cool,i also hv aboyfriend on this site who seems to be serious like jeff dont tell me that i wl be going thro what kamala is going thro bcoz am afraid
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Decentdude says:Posted: 17 Apr 11@ 28...Edna. U re just jealous and a big time pessimist! Zambia isnt West African...or Nigeria...its southern Africa...perhahs u need to get back to school to refresh...Kalama is 100% African and im very proud of her story...well for Jeff...u re a lucky sud!!!!
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jesthern says:Posted: 17 Apr 11hahaha wel thats really a gud story its just like ours coz we are married but we are still apart since we cant hear anything frm immigration they just keep on telling u to wait over and over so am but that has not stop us from talking on phone,email and skype so ma dear friends Jeff and kalama just hang in there as long as u love is stil there am sure something will work out
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edna says:Posted: 20 Apr 11@ 47 Decentdude its pathetic to be proud of a story u read from an internet. I need to go back to school just the way You need to go and see a psychiatrist.
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redryder44 says:Posted: 17 Apr 11Two great looking people who found love! I wish them a long life together and a speedy solution to their getting through the problems of the government keeping them from returning to the US together. His staying with Kalama and her family and returning to entertain and visit other places can only strengthen their relationship. they will have much to share from this, and I wish them a long and joyous life together! Another proof there is no racial barrier when it comes to love! Larry
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brebri58 says:Posted: 17 Apr 11
Iam so happy for the two of them. Iam also searching for a woman of color to spend the rest of my life with.
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karatina says:Posted: 17 Apr 11beautiful story, goes to show that love true is very much alive. What i would like to know is what is the problem with immigrations?
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viktor777 says:Posted: 17 Apr 11
Wow, this is so great - Jeff is so lucky guy! I hope they will be patient in visa case. I wish lot of happiness to both of them!!!
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lovable_1 says:Posted: 17 Apr 11
This story is a load of crock........if they are married and she cant stay in his country then he should be willing to live in hers.
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lillypie says:Posted: 17 Apr 11congrats,there is no distance on this earth as far as away as yesterday.am sure you will make it guys.some of us are also praying for that miracle to happen to us!GOD BLESS YOU!!
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Godgift41 says:Posted: 17 Apr 11A big congratulations to the couples and jeff especially. This is to tell the world that love choses no race, staus nor color. Jeff should be an examplary to all men. Distance should not be an upstacle to love. The couples should just be patient and faithful to eachother. The will make it out no matter what not even the government to put assunder what God has put together. Couples, HOLD tight to your love. God will make it for you.
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nimoore says:Posted: 17 Apr 11so inspiring distance doesnt matter ,twas meant to be,congrats to the couple wish you all da best
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kishumundu says:Posted: 17 Apr 11
Congrats Jeff & Kalama, Just a good testimonial i hv a friend who met a british man and the embassy stop them same to you guys they work hard through lawyers after three yrs of there marriage things works out ,she left to UK this yr so is matter of time guys keep in touch hope somedays you will be together its matter of time for them to proof some issues and they will definately release the way no doubt. Big Congrats
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itstime4u says:Posted: 17 Apr 11I do business in west and south africa and know about the immigration laws. As an American, it is very expensive and time consuming to bring someone over from a non westernized country. I think there is a little prejudice in the way the immigration laws are, pertaining to countries of color, Africa, Asia and South America. South Africa is a little different because an American citizen can enter there without a visa, but all other parts of Africa require a visa. While I am happy for you, I only hope you are prepared for the obstacles you will face while trying to obtain a visa for your wife. It is sometimes better to obtain an immigration attorney before you marry someone from another country. It would have been better to get a fiance visa first because by marrying now, can take years to get her here. It is easier for you to go there than for her to come here. It seems as though she is from the South Africa area and yes there are some very beautiful women there just like here in America. The only difference that I have experienced with African women is that they are more domesticated and submissive. I hope things work out for the two of you because your love will be tested.
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domini says:Posted: 17 Apr 11
There's nothing can can stop the force of love for it conquers all! Jeff and Kalama, you have a wonderful story...cherish it and build upon it. Remember that the only forces that can come between both of you are the ones you empower. I'm hoping to hear nothing but the best from your relationship!!!
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Jewel31 says:Posted: 17 Apr 11
This story only proves that distance is only geography and shows that the pursuit for happiness is not a myth......Good luck guys will be praying that you will be together soon...all the best... Hope I'll be able to tell my story as well.....
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direwolf says:Posted: 16 Apr 11i am so happy for them. i am a true romantic who believes in love at first sight; and i would also marry after a month to my sweet heart. Hell yeah! i hope that her immigration paper get process soon so that she can come live with her husband. i, too, would go to the ends of the world to find the woman of my dreams; and hope to share a similar story of my own someday. now i know there is hope for me. god bless them. You go Jeff and Kalama, we're rooting for you here in America and on this site.
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Gwen4 says:Posted: 16 Apr 11Absence sharpens love but presence strengthen it ; We are born for love; it is the principle of existence and its only end; grace be yours, with the peace that never stops. multiplying; best of luck.
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sofia12 says:Posted: 16 Apr 11Although I have not been told why the immigration cannot issue you visa so you can go and stay with your man. Well well well kalama and Jeff, love conquer all if this is truly your destiny. I pray that God should see you through. Good Luck.
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Michael says:Posted: 16 Apr 11
Sorry, but something just doesn't ring true in this almost "too perfect" interracial love story. The reason behind Kalama’s inability to get a visa is a major "plot line" in the story, yet it is completely missing....not even a hint. That makes the entire thing suspect in my mind.
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edna says:Posted: 16 Apr 11
I don't belive that Kalama is really living in Africa. Cos she has this opaque colour that only blacks living in a cold weather do have it. While those blacks born and brought in Africa do have shining oily skin because of the hot weather. Like the man that is with them on the second pic, yes he is living in Africa. Well if its true story i wish them all the best.
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amanda says:Posted: 30 Apr 11
edna please do not insult us like this..it amazes me that people as shallow and narrow minded such as you are still found on earth..i am of south african origin and i happen to be shades lighter than wat u will ever be...zambians ethopians, tanzanians and namibians naturally are fair skinned with straighter hair texture....i honestly believe u texted what you did out of jelousy and spite, i as an african take offense....but i wish u could be able to one day come to see our beautiful continent..maybe we will be able to change some of the misconceptions you have about us =)
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goldenlover says:Posted: 16 Apr 11
To the 2 love birds, this is a clear sign that love can be found anywhere in the world irrespective of race, location or religious affiliations. Jeff is a brave man for going for his heart yearns for and for his Kalama for being just a real woman. I wish you both the very best today and in the coming years!
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bookitty123 says:Posted: 16 Apr 11Well, that wasn't wise to get married after only knowing each other less than a month lol. Best of luck.
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numerouno1 says:Posted: 16 Apr 11wow.... what a fantastic story true love always finds away good luck to you both may you have a long and happy life together
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Nadira says:Posted: 16 Apr 11
she is gorgeous... I hope everything works out for them. The sounds very romantic I wish there was a petition to sign to send to the government.
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Guery says:Posted: 16 Apr 11Beautiful story, but to answer the question yes the government can delay them on started a new life. Jeff shouldn't married her right away. He should had request for a immigration for a fiancé visa that would had take less than 3 months and he will have got another three months to married her after she arrive in the USA. By married her their is no such of agency of issuing her a visa. Thank for the story and I wish them the best of luck. Any one that fall in love please don't married first request for a fiancé visa. It will go much quicker.
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chyna899 says:Posted: 16 Apr 11
Omg...This is absolutely beautiful. Such a remarkable story. Jeff and Kalama congrats and May GOD bless u guys...
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Sharee313 says:Posted: 16 Apr 11I am so happy to see that this site has worked out for them and many others. Keep the faith and trust God, all will work out for the both of you. Very proud to see how he went after what he wanted and needed, never let go, both of you. I wish you the best of luck in your marriage and never forget what brought the two of you together when times seem hard, you will be together.
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Dannyco56 says:Posted: 16 Apr 11What a beautiful story and a beutiful couple best of luck to both of you!
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TCSR says:Posted: 16 Apr 11I know the feeling that the Govt plays with two people hearts. .I have had friends go through it and now I am going through it. Its been almost 8 month now and she is still not with me. Damm Govt paperwork . They could care less about you and your lover, And more about money. So far it has cost me close to $6000. to $10,000. to get my lover to the USA. I know security is tight since 9/11 but give me A break. I have been to here country 2 times. and she can not even visit me. I have to get A K1 Visa that is the only way she can come here. Jeff & Kalama I wish you two the best .But the time for her Visa will be the worst time in your life. But when to Govt finished with you and she gets her Visa. it will be worth it BEST of LUCK to you
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monic891 says:Posted: 16 Apr 11well well i am so happy for both of them ....i know wn the right times comes its comes with no compromise .... i will love to see my self happy like they are ....my time still on the way not yet soon and soon its me BEST BEST LUCK
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Bartez33 says:Posted: 16 Apr 11Heart warming story just goes to prove love can conquer all. Best of luck to you both..
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fifi84 says:Posted: 16 Apr 11
Sweety its plain to see u guys are ment to be togther-for sure no govement. Will keep u apart..all the best love.As u know I took ur advise and joined the site-am new but so far so good.All the best dear!xxx
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Lassie2000 says:Posted: 16 Apr 11
They look so fun- loving and beautiful together! Blessings to u guys.
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shiko says:Posted: 16 Apr 11
wonderful, its so amazing. Now thats what we call true love, doesnt matter the distance. they are so beautiful and lovely. i wish them all the happiness in he whole world. And the government should know that they can't keep them apart, and they dont have the right to, they should do the right thing and let them be happy and move on with their life. congrats.
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mara319 says:Posted: 16 Apr 11
Being from zambia myself, my heart melted for these two! Great story and I pray God you both hold on and get these papers sorted out! Remain faithful, God will never leave you in any tough situation. Much love to you both
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Empress29 says:Posted: 16 Apr 11Wow.....WHAT A BEAUTIFUL STORY. BEST OF LUCK!
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sunflower211 says:Posted: 16 Apr 11
so sweet. I hope it last. i pray they have success in their marriage.
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tolove1 says:Posted: 15 Apr 11I think that this story is wonderful. This is a prime example of what true love really is. I pray that the happy love birds stay blessed and reunite for an eternity starting in the states. GOD bless.
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Tayra01 says:Posted: 15 Apr 11
What a beautiful story!Being from Africa myself, I know the feeling. Good luck to you both and God bless.
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B.boy says:Posted: 15 Apr 11oh wat a wonderful starting of relationship and there relationship should remain and as the situation is they should not be parted they really need to be together to continue with their happy life, and no matter what a distance is and as distance is the great enemy to a relationship and nw since the situation is like this let jeff keep patient sooner or later since there is love they will be together. Jeff deserve to be awarded by the Afro Romance since he shows to the whole world that skin or being what colour of skin or where one comes from doesn't matter in loving someone.
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wow2006 says:Posted: 15 Apr 11
Well, well, well, I am pleased for both Jeff and kalama, primariy because Jeff has shown that he is own man and not influenced by anything or anyone, he is a strong independently minded guy who knows what he wants and goes out and gets it no matter where or how far, just like me heh heh ! Kalama is lovely , having myself travelled to African countries several times and seen natural beautiful African women, he has made a really good choice in another natural human being! I just hope that US Immigration gets the permanent residency status for kalama sorted out soon, it usually takes about 2 years before the whole thing goes into overdrive and she will have to be very patient and so will Jeff, but once its all confirmed that the marriage is genuine, things will be fine! Good luck both of you !
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smileyface79 says:Posted: 15 Apr 11
How romantic for a man to travel the world for his love. Very inspiring!!! Best of luck you two!! :)
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2371 says:Posted: 16 Apr 11
thats a very nice thing for this guy to say...and i hope he fin love soon as well as myself
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kay.j says:Posted: 14 Apr 11
Im so happy 4 then and i hope everything works out wonderfully with them and their future family. :)
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iceburger says:Posted: 14 Apr 11
This is one beautiful story. But we have not been told why the immigration cannot issue the required papers so that she can travel. That could have shed more light..and am sure we have people here who have had such troubles before and managed somehow. They could offer advise too.
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I have read this story and I feel Jeff is not being honest. One, he's a DJ and found himself talking to so many people. I believe most of these were either here on this site or within his line of work. Hes even teaching one daughter of a lady he met magic! Then, found another online, after a few days, they are married. My oh my...how long did it it him to know others were not what he wanted? Which area is this that he lives without black persons? Of late, the US and other formally tight governments have made it easier for visa applicants, especially spouses. If he's genuine and loves the lady, he can as well pack and head for Zambia and never go back. Emmm...did I miss the wedding pictures that support the story? Otherwise, the headline of this article for now, should read differently....remove can't and replace keep with keeps!