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They Passed Chemistry: Would They Flunk Geography?

Posted by Leticia, 18 Apr

It took “less than one billing cycle” for Joy and Thomas to make contact after joining our site. Today, they’re married!

Thomas was tired of waiting for random circumstance to introduce him to a woman interested in dating outside her race. So he got a membership on our site. “This was my first experience with online dating,” he says. “I just decided it was time for me to take more initiative and more control over finding the kind of partner I wanted.”

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Joy was beginning to see the virtue of virtual dating by the time she posted her profile with us (her username: “BeaReal100”). “I wasn’t having any success meeting anyone while out and about, and while this was not my first experience with online dating, it was my first experience on an interracial dating site.”

Like Thomas, Joy was ready to restrict her search to interracial singles. They’d found the right site for it, but that doesn’t mean they were supremely confident. Both say the same thing when asked to gauge their confidence level, on their first day with us. “I was uncertain, but hopeful!”

It was the woman who found the man, in this case. Here’s how Joy remembers it. “I reached out to ‘LuvAllShades’ (now my husband) in June 2015 via a message stating that it would have been nice if we’d met when I lived in the city in which he resided. It was more of a musing, really, as I didn’t expect anything to come of it. We were married seven weeks later, in August. Seven weeks from ‘hello’ to ‘I do!”

What was it about Thomas’ profile that struck her fancy? Joy says, “I appreciated the fact that his profile was extremely detailed, and included the statement ‘I WILL put a ring on it,’ which resonated with me (as I was solely interested in relationships that would lead to marriage).”

When Thomas took a look at Joy’s profile, he liked what he saw. “She struck me as beautiful, happy, confident, and intelligent, with a very thoughtful, engaging, and intriguing conversational style,” says Thomas.

With both parties interested, they quickly readied themselves to try this out in person. Joy gives us a rundown. “After our initial telephone conversation, which took place three days after I reached out to him, we exchanged texts incessantly and had countless telephone conversations — the longest lasting nine hours!”

Joy believes that if both parties are interested, they should act fast. “Have a phone conversation as soon as possible after online contact, and meet face-to-face within weeks (ideally two) of the first conversation,” she advises online daters.

Thomas nods in agreement. “[Singles should] recognize and respect the absolutely critical role that momentum plays in your courtship, and capitalize upon it. You truly have to seize the moment, especially if geographical distance separates you. It didn’t take us very long to develop a profound connection and sense of chemistry that just compelled me to meet her ASAP.”

As Joy pointed out before, they no longer lived in the same city. “Our first date took place in Philadelphia, PA — midway between our respective homes,” she says. “We spent the weekend together, getting to know one another.”

They met at the train station. Joy will never forget what it felt like when she laid eyes on Thomas for the first time. “Though we had discussed many, many things, style of dress was not among them,” she begins. “So when I first caught sight of him coming up the escalator and noted that he was outfitted in my favorite style of dress, I couldn’t believe it. When he finally reached the top of the escalator, I took in his beautiful blue eyes, his dimples, and his sweet face before shutting my eyes and exclaiming ‘Oh my God’ about 500 times as he held me, stroking my back, until I was able to open my eyes and exhale.”

And how did her date feel? Thomas was spellbound. “She was even more beautiful in person than her photos, and I couldn’t take my eyes off her beautiful smile, her lovely face, and her puppy dog eyes.”

Thomas remembers the slow ramp-up of their date, which focused on conversation. “We had a lot of quality time together where we just quietly got to know each other better. We fit together so amazingly, and so comfortably and so easily, that it quickly seemed like we’d been together forever.”

Did anything unexpected happen? Joy says she was most surprised “that we stayed in the station for three hours, talking, gazing into one another’s eyes, holding hands and kissing before we even began our date.”

We asked the couple where they were and what they were doing when they realized this relationship was special. “I was sitting in the recliner talking on the phone with her,” says Thomas. For him it was their conversational connection that spoke volumes about the woman she is. Joy’s answer is unexpected: “At the train station in Philadelphia before we even officially began our first date,” she says. “I was completely captivated by him! All other thoughts left my mind, and I knew that before me was the man I would marry.”

After a date like that, both singles were positive they would move ahead with another. As the getting-to-know-you process took place, and they learned more about one another, each person felt luckier and luckier. “I didn’t realize what a phenomenal cook she was,” says Thomas. Joy was happy to discover “how protective, take-charge, and sensitive he is. He’s exactly my type.”

Every relationship has its obstacles, however. “From my perspective, geography [was an issue],” says Thomas. Meeting at the halfway point helped, but obviously it would be much easier if they lived in the same area. Also an issue was adapting to different conversational rhythms, Joy recalls. “Because he is a very deliberate communicator, I had to learn to listen and appreciate how much thought he put into what he says.”

It was all worth the trouble, though! “She’s perfect for me,” marvels a joyful Thomas. “She fits me perfectly. We’re perfect for each other! I never thought I could be this happy, this content, and this fulfilled. Joy has truly made me the happiest man in human history.”

Joy says that finding love changed her life “immeasurably. I now have someone who loves me unconditionally, and whom I love the same and will cherish and take care of for the rest of my life.”

Ready for their engagement story? Thomas tells the tale in detail below…

“Joy arrived at Washington, DC’s Union Station around 9:30 p.m. on the evening of Friday, July 17, 2015 – her birthday, no less – and not only was I thrilled to see the love of my life in person once again, but I also was eager and excited to get into a taxicab and whisk her away to the Martin Luther King Jr., memorial, where I was planning to pull out a diamond engagement ring and ask her to marry me.

“But by the time she arrived and stepped into my arms, she was ready to just leave and get home so we could be alone together. So as we got into a cab and headed home, I deferred, recognizing I would have to come up with a Plan B…

“The next morning, as Joy was preparing to go online and make some Facebook posts, I decided that now was the time. I told her I would like her to sit on the bed for a few moments, which she did. I then proceeded to reach into my pants pocket for the small black pouch that contained the ring and removed it, briefly holding it before her. ‘Joy, I wanted to take you to the Martin Luther King, Jr. memorial in DC last night and do this. But since we decided to just come home so we could be together, I held off.

“‘I wanted to take you to the memorial because when I was growing up, Martin Luther King, Jr. was one of my heroes. Martin Luther King had a dream, a dream that has inspired billions of people across the world. Myself, I’m not a man of his magnitude, but I too, have had a dream – a dream that has inspired me and sustained me through all the years, the ups and downs, the heartaches and disappointments. Joy, you are the fulfillment of that dream.’

“I then took her left hand with mine, slid the ring on her finger, dropped to my right knee and said, “Joy, will you marry me and make me the happiest man in human history?”

She replied: ‘Yes! Yes! Yes!’”

Now that is a dream fulfilled.

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  1.   winlas says:
    Posted: 10 Jul 16

    It's loving for sure, let pray for mine too

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  2.   Myheavenly20 says:
    Posted: 10 Jul 16

    I wish this could be my heart desire, wow...

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  3.   Maelen says:
    Posted: 09 Jul 16

    Ooh my God....I wish I am a lucky girl...

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  4.   Wamboibz says:
    Posted: 05 Jul 16

    Woow.. May God bless your marriage

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  5.   MissZama30 says:
    Posted: 29 Jun 16

    Wow, this is amazing. I hope I too will find my better half, my perfect match. This story is so inspiring and gives me hope.

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  6.   chidochemoyo says:
    Posted: 24 Jun 16

    Wow,i wish I could also find mine. These are my dreams for many years now. Am praying that mine is on the way and I believe the best is yet to come.

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  7.   X_Bonrue says:
    Posted: 23 Jun 16

    Lovely story!!!

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  8.   paslesa says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 16

    Wow it's like a bedtime love story I jst like.true... nothing is impossible where there is love

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  9.   gewaja says:
    Posted: 14 Jun 16

    Lovely surely is really true. I now start to come close to the true pic that I will get mine of true love

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  10.   mulekatete12 says:
    Posted: 13 Jun 16

    Woow ..congs thats best story and cant stop reading it God bless u alot

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  11.   qub says:
    Posted: 13 Jun 16

    i pray to God each day for my heart desire and i know it shall come to pass am happy for them God bless their marriage.

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  12.   loveness24 says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 16

    wooooow what a beautiful love story I can't stop reading ooh my god I'm so happy for them God bless you joy and Thomas

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  13.   niksha says:
    Posted: 07 Jun 16

    Wow...Good and happy for her

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  14.   Shak4ra says:
    Posted: 04 Jun 16

    Wow this is one good story its like in the movies.So happy for them.

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  15.   Dafribajon says:
    Posted: 03 Jun 16

    Still new and hoping for the best

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  16.   blesseedone says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 16

    I do hope i can experience Love like that.

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  17.   blesseedone says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 16

    Beautiful story

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  18.   Mehme says:
    Posted: 31 May 16

    I hope also that I can find may soulmate soon!

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  19.   Tiger7041 says:
    Posted: 31 May 16

    I am talking to someone in a far state i like him a lot. he likes me. I don't mind relocating if it comes to that. He seems so loving. I'm happy for the couple. Wish me luck.

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  20.   Jessica4156 says:
    Posted: 30 May 16

    Wow!These amazing stories just blow me away.All I ever want is to experience what they have.A special wish at a special age like mine.Thanx so much!

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  21.   lover1boyi says:
    Posted: 28 May 16

    What a lovely history

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  22.   Chisolm says:
    Posted: 24 May 16

    What a great love life story

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  23.   bootu13 says:
    Posted: 23 May 16

    Distance is nothing. Where there is a will there is a way.

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  24.   Whanto says:
    Posted: 22 May 16

    Hopefully not enything can work if you want it to

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  25.   Chichiela says:
    Posted: 21 May 16

    What a lovely story.it gave me hope.God bless your union

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  26.   Design_46 says:
    Posted: 18 May 16

    I hopeful and very confident I shall find mine soon.

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  27.   jazmine06 says:
    Posted: 17 May 16

    woooow such a touching story. I also hope to meet the man of my life time here too.

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  28.   Mabhee says:
    Posted: 16 May 16

    What a lovely story.. I do have hope that one day I'll find the love of my life. I wish you people the best

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  29.   tolly84 says:
    Posted: 15 May 16

    Wow... that was a was on

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  30.   Cyleen says:
    Posted: 14 May 16

    Wow very nice..

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  31.   valmurray says:
    Posted: 10 May 16

    the most beautiful story.i have noticed though that most people who meet on online dating sites and stick together are older people.younger people(most of them)are not serious,just a waste of time.Am hoping to meet my prince charming here one day

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  32.   srpharm says:
    Posted: 08 May 16

    Awesome, am glad, congrats to all of you

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  33.   StarShine. says:
    Posted: 08 May 16

    This was nice to read. It gives me hope

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  34.   BeauitfulDS says:
    Posted: 04 May 16

    BEAUTIFUL

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  35.   cuty9 says:
    Posted: 02 May 16

    Wish them all the best in life and may they love grow stronger everyday,,injoy each other,be true to one another,,,!!! Wish I can find that love!!

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  36.   cherubet says:
    Posted: 01 May 16

    Beautiful story there God bless there union

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  37.   dimbosa says:
    Posted: 01 May 16

    Woow so interesting

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  38.   bbydollkity says:
    Posted: 01 May 16

    Woooow so nice

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  39.   ruthy12345 says:
    Posted: 01 May 16

    too beautiful..

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  40.   SunkissedLoc says:
    Posted: 01 May 16

    Sounds romantic.

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  41.   Ghangmmm says:
    Posted: 01 May 16

    Amazing story.. Hope I can My partner in interracial dating for My happy forver partner..

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  42.   liza15th says:
    Posted: 30 Apr 16

    It ws a Interesting story between Thomas@Joy the Destiny is with them to Be as One * But Honestly my Biggest Problems is How can I Meet my Soulmate Here If Every Time I Reply thiere Messages I Pay the Payment of Every Subscribe that I can Not Afford to Pay All the Payments Here on this Dating Site * Bcoz I'm Not Like Other of your Member Here can Afford All the Expences * Bcoz I'm Only a Poor Person that's Why Its very Hard for Me to Find my Destiny Here on Dating Site @Honestly I don't Have a Permanent Job I Had Only a Part Time Job How can I Pay All this Things If You don't Mind * I Hope You Understand Me * Im Still Hoping that there is a Other Way for Me @nd Hoping that You can Help Me to Communicate and Meet my Destiny Here in Dating Site * Thanks @ God Bless You Respectfully Yours lizaorbiso *

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  43.   dumelezi says:
    Posted: 30 Apr 16

    I wish you all the best to your both journey

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  44.   mrbluesays says:
    Posted: 30 Apr 16

    women of color hate themselves just look at the hotcomb chemical false fake phoney hair doo's We love natural women of color un-fake white.

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  45.   Bri1961 says:
    Posted: 29 Apr 16

    Beautiful story glad she met him and so online dating really wor well i hope I find my dream it has been 1 year and nothing but scammers from Nigeria and Africa. I want interracial Realtionship with a white man only.

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  46.   fozio says:
    Posted: 28 Apr 16

    Amazing testimony

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  47.   honestand40 says:
    Posted: 27 Apr 16

    that was way to fast but I pray God will bless there marriage and everything works out for them

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  48.   blackbelle01 says:
    Posted: 24 Apr 16

    Wow, this was such an amazing story. I am almost in tears. What a beautiful proposal

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  49.   just_divine says:
    Posted: 23 Apr 16

    Awesome. Beautiful testimony

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  50.   Cafiann says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 16

    This is so beautiful Wish you both all the best!!

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