They Passed Chemistry: Would They Flunk Geography?
It took “less than one billing cycle” for Joy and Thomas to make contact after joining our site. Today, they’re married!
Thomas was tired of waiting for random circumstance to introduce him to a woman interested in dating outside her race. So he got a membership on our site. “This was my first experience with online dating,” he says. “I just decided it was time for me to take more initiative and more control over finding the kind of partner I wanted.”
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Joy was beginning to see the virtue of virtual dating by the time she posted her profile with us (her username: “BeaReal100”). “I wasn’t having any success meeting anyone while out and about, and while this was not my first experience with online dating, it was my first experience on an interracial dating site.”
Like Thomas, Joy was ready to restrict her search to interracial singles. They’d found the right site for it, but that doesn’t mean they were supremely confident. Both say the same thing when asked to gauge their confidence level, on their first day with us. “I was uncertain, but hopeful!”
It was the woman who found the man, in this case. Here’s how Joy remembers it. “I reached out to ‘LuvAllShades’ (now my husband) in June 2015 via a message stating that it would have been nice if we’d met when I lived in the city in which he resided. It was more of a musing, really, as I didn’t expect anything to come of it. We were married seven weeks later, in August. Seven weeks from ‘hello’ to ‘I do!”
What was it about Thomas’ profile that struck her fancy? Joy says, “I appreciated the fact that his profile was extremely detailed, and included the statement ‘I WILL put a ring on it,’ which resonated with me (as I was solely interested in relationships that would lead to marriage).”
When Thomas took a look at Joy’s profile, he liked what he saw. “She struck me as beautiful, happy, confident, and intelligent, with a very thoughtful, engaging, and intriguing conversational style,” says Thomas.
With both parties interested, they quickly readied themselves to try this out in person. Joy gives us a rundown. “After our initial telephone conversation, which took place three days after I reached out to him, we exchanged texts incessantly and had countless telephone conversations — the longest lasting nine hours!”
Joy believes that if both parties are interested, they should act fast. “Have a phone conversation as soon as possible after online contact, and meet face-to-face within weeks (ideally two) of the first conversation,” she advises online daters.
Thomas nods in agreement. “[Singles should] recognize and respect the absolutely critical role that momentum plays in your courtship, and capitalize upon it. You truly have to seize the moment, especially if geographical distance separates you. It didn’t take us very long to develop a profound connection and sense of chemistry that just compelled me to meet her ASAP.”
As Joy pointed out before, they no longer lived in the same city. “Our first date took place in Philadelphia, PA — midway between our respective homes,” she says. “We spent the weekend together, getting to know one another.”
They met at the train station. Joy will never forget what it felt like when she laid eyes on Thomas for the first time. “Though we had discussed many, many things, style of dress was not among them,” she begins. “So when I first caught sight of him coming up the escalator and noted that he was outfitted in my favorite style of dress, I couldn’t believe it. When he finally reached the top of the escalator, I took in his beautiful blue eyes, his dimples, and his sweet face before shutting my eyes and exclaiming ‘Oh my God’ about 500 times as he held me, stroking my back, until I was able to open my eyes and exhale.”
And how did her date feel? Thomas was spellbound. “She was even more beautiful in person than her photos, and I couldn’t take my eyes off her beautiful smile, her lovely face, and her puppy dog eyes.”
Thomas remembers the slow ramp-up of their date, which focused on conversation. “We had a lot of quality time together where we just quietly got to know each other better. We fit together so amazingly, and so comfortably and so easily, that it quickly seemed like we’d been together forever.”
Did anything unexpected happen? Joy says she was most surprised “that we stayed in the station for three hours, talking, gazing into one another’s eyes, holding hands and kissing before we even began our date.”
We asked the couple where they were and what they were doing when they realized this relationship was special. “I was sitting in the recliner talking on the phone with her,” says Thomas. For him it was their conversational connection that spoke volumes about the woman she is. Joy’s answer is unexpected: “At the train station in Philadelphia before we even officially began our first date,” she says. “I was completely captivated by him! All other thoughts left my mind, and I knew that before me was the man I would marry.”
After a date like that, both singles were positive they would move ahead with another. As the getting-to-know-you process took place, and they learned more about one another, each person felt luckier and luckier. “I didn’t realize what a phenomenal cook she was,” says Thomas. Joy was happy to discover “how protective, take-charge, and sensitive he is. He’s exactly my type.”
Every relationship has its obstacles, however. “From my perspective, geography [was an issue],” says Thomas. Meeting at the halfway point helped, but obviously it would be much easier if they lived in the same area. Also an issue was adapting to different conversational rhythms, Joy recalls. “Because he is a very deliberate communicator, I had to learn to listen and appreciate how much thought he put into what he says.”
It was all worth the trouble, though! “She’s perfect for me,” marvels a joyful Thomas. “She fits me perfectly. We’re perfect for each other! I never thought I could be this happy, this content, and this fulfilled. Joy has truly made me the happiest man in human history.”
Joy says that finding love changed her life “immeasurably. I now have someone who loves me unconditionally, and whom I love the same and will cherish and take care of for the rest of my life.”
Ready for their engagement story? Thomas tells the tale in detail below…
“Joy arrived at Washington, DC’s Union Station around 9:30 p.m. on the evening of Friday, July 17, 2015 – her birthday, no less – and not only was I thrilled to see the love of my life in person once again, but I also was eager and excited to get into a taxicab and whisk her away to the Martin Luther King Jr., memorial, where I was planning to pull out a diamond engagement ring and ask her to marry me.
“But by the time she arrived and stepped into my arms, she was ready to just leave and get home so we could be alone together. So as we got into a cab and headed home, I deferred, recognizing I would have to come up with a Plan B…
“The next morning, as Joy was preparing to go online and make some Facebook posts, I decided that now was the time. I told her I would like her to sit on the bed for a few moments, which she did. I then proceeded to reach into my pants pocket for the small black pouch that contained the ring and removed it, briefly holding it before her. ‘Joy, I wanted to take you to the Martin Luther King, Jr. memorial in DC last night and do this. But since we decided to just come home so we could be together, I held off.
“‘I wanted to take you to the memorial because when I was growing up, Martin Luther King, Jr. was one of my heroes. Martin Luther King had a dream, a dream that has inspired billions of people across the world. Myself, I’m not a man of his magnitude, but I too, have had a dream – a dream that has inspired me and sustained me through all the years, the ups and downs, the heartaches and disappointments. Joy, you are the fulfillment of that dream.’
“I then took her left hand with mine, slid the ring on her finger, dropped to my right knee and said, “Joy, will you marry me and make me the happiest man in human history?”
She replied: ‘Yes! Yes! Yes!’”
Now that is a dream fulfilled.
250 responses to "They Passed Chemistry: Would They Flunk Geography?"
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mm.s says:Posted: 15 Dec 16Yes yes that's great we do apprencianty for that wonderful dream.
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Luckenzy says:Posted: 14 Dec 16Am so happy for them, and i wish to find mine here too.
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Ebonycat1 says:Posted: 10 Dec 16This is so cute, God will do it for me too, can somebody say amen to that
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PARTINER says:Posted: 05 Dec 16
God bless them, i pray God brings mine too, even if he's of a long distance, all things are possible.
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KOMKER says:Posted: 28 Nov 16I cant wait for my own turn God, I know I'm distance apart but it's not impossible to meet my true love/husband over the other side of the world.
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Wardarmwake says:Posted: 27 Nov 16God bless them,I too deeply believe and hope to find a man of my dream here.
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akhilsu says:Posted: 26 Nov 16Hey anybody love me 9550550673 this my what's app number
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Cute69 says:Posted: 23 Nov 16
Amazing
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Joy_atad says:Posted: 22 Nov 16I hope i can also find also my true love here
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Ayibabaa says:Posted: 19 Dec 16
Please if you dont mind, email me because I have seen your so nice. Am waiting for you please.
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canie says:Posted: 17 Nov 16Wow what a beautiful story, congratulations. God is faithful , delay is not denial, im patiently waiting for my future husband, I know that true love will locate me, God is busy preparing that man for me
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francop says:Posted: 18 Mar 17
I love your comment and I wish I have you as a beautiful wife
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Sirpee12 says:Posted: 17 Nov 16
Congratulations may God give me my own beautiful wife
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Breanna07 says:Posted: 15 Nov 16Congratulations I pray that God sends me that true love
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joeamour says:Posted: 14 Nov 16wow, congratularions wish I also one day find my self in that peace, truely am searching for someone who will love me back for good.
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Noblepraise says:Posted: 02 Nov 16
I thank the Almighty God how far he has brought you Am soo glad for you My humble prayer is God should help me get one who is God fearing
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Keithebusu says:Posted: 31 Oct 16I always believe in true love but I don't really know when this colorful moments will reach my life too.I wish them the best.honesty,trust,understanding each other,truly loving is the best gift you can always offer your love of life.
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january_72 says:Posted: 31 Oct 16Congratulations to the couple's who's found their true love here
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Bshe says:Posted: 28 Oct 16Wow! Thats amazing. Hope to find a Genuine friend too and later have something special.
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Noblepraise says:Posted: 02 Nov 16
Hello dear please can we no each other better
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Godwisdom says:Posted: 25 Oct 16
Congratulations to all and may God bless your marriage. Hope to meet my best friend, a brother, my world best and husband.
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Choneys says:Posted: 23 Oct 16That is very cool. I hope the girl that I am vying for feels the same. Congradularions to all of you that get this oportunitee right!
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aquaris says:Posted: 18 Oct 16Long distance need very strong mentol support from both side,but nowadays, no must ppl can stay and handle it.
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Menkaura says:Posted: 15 Oct 16
I'm Watching "The INTERRACIAL CON GAME" on YOUTUBE. I have reached a new conclusion. That this smart beautiful sister Crystelyn is now part of the Problem.
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Cutethang30 says:Posted: 11 Oct 16
Aww sweet! I pray I find that special someone...
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Diamondsarah says:Posted: 04 Oct 16I have always believed in true love. I hope I get to feel this way someday soon. Happy married life to you both
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Chanty44 says:Posted: 01 Oct 16
Congratulations on your beautiful marriage. I prayed to God to send me my soulmate. Men be real 100% all the way. I see no color because both of my grandparents came from biracial parent. I love my family and son.
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Anan2 says:Posted: 28 Sep 16Am really tired of fakes...with heartache full of disappointments I know i will surely meet him soon. ..king of my heart.... #nice love story though! !
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Miniki says:Posted: 16 Oct 16Hi you look nice please may I know you very well?
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abokena says:Posted: 25 Sep 16
its really amazing story would like to have a soul mate as soon as possible
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Tshepiso9 says:Posted: 22 Sep 16They will definitely. Happy fr u guys. Waiting for my testimony one day. Have a blessed relationship. For itenity
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ladytily says:Posted: 22 Sep 16
God bless their love and I wish of all them the best of luck,! And i pray to get same!
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Nelope says:Posted: 21 Sep 16
Very. Nice.!! I want that. All the couples. Many years. To you all and follow. Your dreams. Together. Every one has a destany. Follow. It together? And put all for each Never. Take anger in the! !! The bedroom passion sexy be very. Spontaneous. And you. Will have. Longer happy marriage. Annette
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maks666 says:Posted: 20 Sep 16
Humbling testimonies. Love truly exist. I am not left out. Would like to get the love of my life too.
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Fruitykiss says:Posted: 16 Sep 16
Hope joy &Thomas have a wonderful time in they new journey in life
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Emwar says:Posted: 07 Sep 16I hope i can find the right man ...
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jhanaah23 says:Posted: 03 Sep 16
Im hoping that 1 day i find my dream.man to be my partner in my life like joy and thomas
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jhanaah23 says:Posted: 03 Sep 16
Im hoping that 1 day i find my dream.man to be my partner in my life
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kaseve says:Posted: 23 Aug 16I praying to God to bless me one day with my soulmate,congrats guys for union
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Simmpy says:Posted: 20 Aug 16
Oh Gosh. I wish their love last forever. Congratulation sisi hope to find mine I trust the Lord
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Naseefa says:Posted: 18 Aug 16
Congratulations to the both of you.This is true love and I hope I will find the same on IR.
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Uzosco6 says:Posted: 18 Aug 16
so touching of a story, i am inspired by this and hopeful of mine also, may God bless their union and i also pray to find such love. Love where are thou?
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0001Joan says:Posted: 18 Aug 16
Please Excuse the comments arriving as a duplicate, and that question mark is definitely an error! God Bless You
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Ayibabaa says:Posted: 19 Dec 16
Please I have liked you, if you dont mind lets get in touch. Email me.
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0001Joan says:Posted: 18 Aug 16
CONGRATULATIONS!!! May God Continuously Provide Magnitude's Of Prosperity And Abundance's Of Blessing's To Your Marriage!!! GOD BLESS YOU!!! ✨
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0001Joan says:Posted: 18 Aug 16
CONGRATULATIONS!!! May God Continuously Provide Magnitude's Of Prosperity And Abundance's Of Blessing's To Your Marriage!!! GOD BLESS YOU!!! ✨
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Doce28 says:Posted: 17 Aug 16
God bless you sis and your marriage. He did for you, he will do for us all searching for the same thing. Inspiring and interesting, its like watching a movie!
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