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Will his 'last-ditch-effort' at online dating bear fruit?

Posted by Leticia, 10 May

A certain dating profile with the handle “Lotus32” intrigued Sanel. Velda posted it on our site because her search for love had proven fruitless so far. “I was at my wits’ end,” she admits. “Your site was my first experience with online dating, but I knew I needed to do something different!”

Velda tells us that Sanel was also a newcomer to the Internet personals world, because he “gave up” on traditional methods and this was his “last-ditch effort” to find that special someone. “He loves black women and this site provided that,” jokes Velda.

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Both were only members for a couple of weeks before Velda noticed Sanel’s profile. Right off the bat, she knew this guy was her type. “He was definitely similar to what I had envisioned,” she informs us. “I loved his profile because it was short and to the point. He was simple and eloquent with his words – not too much fluff and foam! So I reached out to him with a short message.”

What really appealed to Sanel about Velda’s profile was the love she professed for movies and travel. These were key interests for him, too, so her profile spoke to him. “A perfect match,” Velda calls it. Sanel also appreciated his lovely lady’s honesty, telling us, “She was very transparent about who she was, and her profile reflected that.”

We asked the happy couple when they decided to make the leap from online chat to real-life conversation. “It wasn't rocket science,” laughs Velda. “We enjoyed each other’s company on Skype, so why not?” Sanel chimes in here, saying, “It was easy to make that decision because we laughed every day and enjoyed each other’s company.”

So how did this first date go down? “She met me in my country,” Sanel says. Velda caught a flight so the pair could put their in-person chemistry to the test. From the jump Sanel felt confident that they were meant for one another. “She didn’t change a bit, and we didn’t miss a beat [from Skype]. There was really nothing to it!”

Before long the pair were officially an item, even back in their respective countries. They were having a Netflix date night on Skype when Velda realized this was something really special. For Sanel, it was another date night, one in which “she was doing calculus and I was painting a selfie she had sent me.”

Obviously, the distance between them was an issue, but that didn’t stop our story’s artistic leading man from taking the next step… “He proposed in front of close friends and family,” beams Velda. “It wasn’t a ‘production’ proposal, but an intimate moment.”

Now that they’re engaged, the couple feel relaxed and excited about what the future holds. Being together has made Velda’s life “easier and more enjoyable.” As Sanel puts it, “Life is now a fresh breath of air. She is my queen and better half, exactly what I prayed for.”

To close out our story, here are Velda’s tips for singles on our site. “Be yourself, keep your criteria and maintain it. Don’t lie on your profile, because you WILL get what you don’t want!”

As for Sanel, he suggests that our members “be as transparent as you can, without divulging your entire life story until it’s appropriate. Have safe fun!”

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  1.   Evaindo32 says:
    Posted: 06 Sep 17

    Hello

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  2.   keishagood says:
    Posted: 18 May 17

    Most of the men here feel like women are here only to look for entrance into a new country,I know for sure I m not one of them I can leave my country on my own by myself but I'm confident that I can get my school visa anytime ,because of school and work (self employed )I have to sort out my self before running off and next thing most men here are too picky and dont know wha they want.

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  3.   Paganinifan says:
    Posted: 12 May 17

    All these success stories have one thing in common - They're all "newcomers" to online dating. I've been on this interracial site for 10 damn years and all I run into are women who are flakey (they ditch out of a date at the last minute), are problematic (they have personal life issues which in my opinion are excuses), they're not over some jackass ex bf or they're at a far distance and they don't seem to want to put any effort into finding love unless I live around the damn corner from them. So done with this single scene.

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    • Trini_Spyce says:
      Posted: 13 May 17

      Paganinifan, Soo sorry that you feel frustrated by the online-dating experiences. Much of what you say, is so indeed. However, newcomer or not, I believe that relationships thrive for varying reasons. I have met some wonderful individuals on here, and without drama, but because our fundamehtal lifestyle practices DID NOT match, I elected to pass. Sometimes winning online is about the filter process, establishing guidelines/rules for self (i.e. I will not go out with someone unless I feel there is an intellectual connection, even if they live 5mins away), "philosophical" compatibilies, standards, region, introspecting (i.e. constant work on personal development; mastering being that person you want to meet), adjustment, resitting and definitely patience, etc. Please do not lose hope as there is always someone for somebody. Lastly, remember EXPECTATIONS is a killer, as it really sets one up for disappointment , judgement, comparisons, competition, etc. Live free, be true to the authentic self and such WILL come to you. -your champion advocate!!

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    • ITALIANBBOY says:
      Posted: 15 May 17

      Paganinifan, Your are so right! I'm having the same experience.

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    • Blankie says:
      Posted: 15 May 17

      Hi Paganinifan, It's interesting you should share this sentiments. I've experienced guys who only want someone who lives a few streets away from them! Lol. I don't blame them though; long-distance dating that could last a while for someone who is tired of being single can be tough. But speaking of location, I checked out your profile and it says you're unwilling to relocate. Wouldn't that translate to mean you'd be more open to women within your immediate geographical location? Anyway, be patient; love will find you or vice versa. For waiting this long, you'll be blessed with the perfect mate. All the best.

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      • FmaleLedRshp says:
        Posted: 18 Jun 17

        Agreed. The likelihood of success is much higher when both profiles/parties are new. But assuming one has his/her 'priorities' in order, he/she will come one way or the other.

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    • Cite1 says:
      Posted: 17 May 17

      Then broaden your scope

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    • Bounty007 says:
      Posted: 23 May 17

      I'm sorry it's taken you that long, but I agree with Trini. Don't be scared state exactly what it is you want, especially the things you don't like. This helps will filtering the kind of people that show interest or how they respond. Good luck with your search and I pray you find your match.

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      • Pando2014 says:
        Posted: 10 Oct 17

        You are correct about that. I weed out many that are in some kind of rush after two notes, then send a number, ask for dinner?? Ok red flag in my book. I am a slow when it comes to meeting people .

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    • honeyb0304 says:
      Posted: 30 May 17

      Same thing for me I know how you feel. It feels like this site is a hook up site not a site to find the right one. :(

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    • Asha76 says:
      Posted: 01 Jun 17

      Let we try! lol... :-D

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    • browncoco42 says:
      Posted: 03 Jun 17

      I agree with you. All these successes, what the hell. Where's my success? The same ole damn thing I see year after year. Stop the madness.

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    • Pando2014 says:
      Posted: 10 Oct 17

      A lot of women online, this site have been victims of abuse, done really wrong to the point where many just want a friend for starters with no pressure of things that might remind them of the past bad experiences. So many in other words might be just a little bit scared or just change there mind. Plus online dating can be dangerous now a days with all the hate going on in the world. Be kind, patient if it's someone you really want to get to meet or know.

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    • Sityhot says:
      Posted: 09 Oct 18

      hahahahaha your post made me laugh alot my Dia,u have spent 10year here,hahahahaha ooooh my

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