White Men Dating

Megha & Bjorn -
Sweden - India

Engaged September 2012

Looking for a “Safe Flirt,” He Found His Future Wife

Björn had been single for some time. “I was signed up on one or two other [sites], with more local girls, but I don’t think I ever logged in to them,” he recalls. “I’ve always been interested in women of color, so this site was more appealing than the others.”

“I basically joined for a ‘safe flirt,’ as I thought myself not ready for a serious relationship, and flirting with girls all over the world would be as safe as I could make it,” Björn relates. “A few days after I started using the site seriously I met Megha, and sparks flew. Now, only a few months after we met, we’re getting married! She’s the love of my life. So much for a ‘safe flirt’ huh?”

We’re pleased as punch for Björn and Megha, but you’re probably wondering how they met, and how their experience might help you meet someone too! So let’s go back to the beginning…

Meet Megha — a nice girl looking for nothing less than the love of a lifetime. “I was just checking some sites here and there and [yours] was one of them,” Megha explains. We were her first online dating site, and hopefully we’ll be her last!

Megha had been a member for about a month when she found Björn’s profile. What reeled her in? “His eyes! Best thing I’ve ever seen,” she tells us. “Nobody puts everything in their profiles, but I thought he was very honest in his. Maybe TOO honest!”

Unfortunately, Megha hadn’t had a whole lot of luck up to this point. “I was about to close my account when I met Björn,” she confesses. “I couldn’t meet any interesting guys online. And then I found him. My love. My life.”

In his own words, here’s Björn’s account of how their paths crossed. “I had been a member for a year or so, but I’d never really used [the site] until I became a paying member in late June, just a few days before I met Megha,” he begins. “I (‘Zen78’) got a Flirt from ‘Tulip,’ who had noticed my pictures. After looking at her profile, I was instantly interested. She was the most beautiful woman I’ve seen! Especially her dark, mysterious eyes a man could drown in. She is VERY photogenic, unlike this ugly ol’ mutt. :p I sent her a silly message to get her attention. In chronological order, we started with Flirt, email, SMS, Skype, then met IRL.”

Meeting IRL (in real life) was not something Björn or Megha spent much time agonizing over. They were ready! “After seeing his pictures and talking to him online, I was sure I wanted to meet him,” she says.

Of course, there was a catch — remember when Björn said he was looking for a safe flirt and was talking to women around the world? Well, Megha easily qualified as “around the world” from Björn. She lived in India! But was that going to stop him? “I was sooo love-starved after all these years as a single that, after having met Megha, I fell so madly in love that I just HAD to meet her,” he says. “I borrowed a lot of money from my family and just left for India, ASAP.”

“I was waiting for him so long at the airport,” Megha relates. “But when he wasn’t coming out, I thought he saw me from afar, turned around and went back home! Then I went to all four gates looking for him and finally found him. He was as handsome as in the pictures! My thought when we met was ‘What is he thinking about me?’ Weird right?”

Björn says a bad case of nerves had him literally shaking. “She wasn’t standing at the airport when I came out, and my first thought was that I’d been stood up. But after a few minutes, I heard a voice behind me and there she was. She just walked up to me, took my hand and smiled. So my first impression was that this woman was confident! AND the most beautiful being I’ve ever laid eyes on.”

“We didn’t have a date since he was too tired, but I was surprised that after spending a whole day in Delhi he was still nervous,” Megha says.

What, no date? Björn confirms Megha’s recollection. “We never went on a proper ‘date,’ actually,” he says. “I had planned for one, but the insomnia and jetlag made me so totally spent that I had to go to the hotel early, so we never got to do the date. Afterwards, she told me that she’d even bought a dress for that occasion, which she never got to use, and I felt soooo bad for that... It will be rectified now, tenfold.”

Proper date or not, did they have the sense there would be a second meeting? “I was DAMNED sure,” laughs Megha. Björn puts it another way. “Well, my stay in India was for two weeks, so I didn’t have any choice ;). All kidding aside, even before I reached India I was sure this girl was to be my future wife, and I wouldn’t let wild horses get in the way of achieving that.”

Was Björn the kind of man Megha was looking for? She responds, “My ‘type’ was a man who respected his woman and treated her like a princess. He is exactly that.”

Björn thought that the woman he met in India was even more beguiling than the one he’d gotten to know from afar. “She’s stubborn as a mule and she’s got a temper. Two very good qualities I really appreciate about her! And she was even more beautiful IRL than in her photos. She completes me.”

So what about those wedding bells we alluded to earlier? “I haven’t proposed properly yet,” Björn confides. “I’ve asked her MANY times online but not in a proper, movielike proposal! I’m planning to do that now in October when I visit her, in public. I’m sooo nervous! I’m shy but she deserves a good proposal, so I have to plan it very carefully. I’m not gonna say too much…”

While Björn’s plans to propose need some work, it’s a foregone conclusion that rings will be exchanged soon enough. “I’m marrying the guy I love,” Megha says. “It has changed my life completely. I wasn’t ready for any kind of commitment before, but now I’m very proud of making that decision.”

We asked Björn how finding love has changed his life. “It has turned my life upside down! Before, I was a nervous wreck but after meeting Megha, I’m walking on sunshine with no troubles in the world,” he says.

Another standard question for success stories is what advice they have to offer our readers. “Well, the first thing that pops into my mind is honesty,” says Björn. “I had a mindset when I joined your site that I would be TOTALLY honest about myself. I don’t mean for you to spill the beans on the first contact, but lying and bending the truth, and ‘playing the game,’ could spoil a promising relationship. Besides, even though I consider myself the worst catch of the century, Megha seems to love me even more for being so honest and open, and in turn that makes me love HER even more.”

We thank Björn for being so honest with US about his life and experiences. Honesty is a vital component of a good marriage, so it looks like Björn and Megha are off to a great start!

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